In the BDSM community it may be hard to tell where the line between kinky consensual play and abuse is crossed. Let this be a rule of thumb: trust your intuition. If you feel something is wrong, IT PROBABLY IS. If you feel you are being mistreated, SAY SOMETHING.
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i have experienced every single one of these listed under “Abuser” All by the same person a few years back. It was hell and will tear one down completely. It took me a long time to heal and get past it. i was extremely close to giving up on exploring D/s altogether and had to take a long break. PLEASE if you experience any of these things, speak up, find someone to talk to. The Abuser will try to make you feel guilty or that you are disrespecting them and the relationship if you seek advice or help. That is all part of their abusive game as well. Discretion and privacy in a relationship is one thing. But a true and good Dom/Domme will not forbid you to reach out to others in the community or otherwise.
Please, Dom, Dommes and subs.. Read this and learn….